Monday, March 2, 2009

It HAD to be said.

Wow. Who doesn't love fast and testimony meeting? Our ward here in Tooele is so awesome. There are so many people who are rooted deep in the gospel and truly help me to see how to live better and become more like my savior. This Sunday's meeting was not any different either. We had so many Youth share their budding testimonies thanks to a little "challenge" from the bishop. I think the Young Women won there seemed to be more of them but the Young Men did a decent job as well. Just as the contest was getting really heated between the YW and YM a sweet sister in our ward got up whom I've learned and grown to love. She's very oppionated and has no qualms sharing her oppinions. She will be the first to admit this and always will give a side note that she may offend you even though that is not her intentions it's just the way she is. Well she began to tell about her trip to the Draper Temple Open House and how miserable it was because there was a mother and father who had the odacity to bring their 7 young children to the temple and amazingly enough the children where less than well behaved. She continued to complain on how she couldn't feel the spirit in the temple and this young family was all to blame. (K side note she has three children the oldest of which is 28 and then has an 18 year old girl and a 12 year old boy). She said to top off the awfulness when they got on a shuttle bus there was another young family with crazy kids and she had enough and let the father of the young family know that he needed to control his kids. Then she felt the need to let our very very young ward (we have a giant size ward with a humongus primary) (we had just had 3 baby blessings before the sacrament and there are quite a few sister in our ward ready to deliver even more babies) that our ward is hard to feel the spirit in because of all the kids are really loud and we need to get control and make our kids shut-up. A sister struggling with her own kids in front of me turned around and said "well, i've officially been rebuked." and another mom struggling with her 4 children behind me let out an audible gasp of horror. The sister continued on and said how her husband is really good to let things like this not bother him but she wasn't like him. As she finished up her testimony I couldn't even hear what she was saying because my heart was beating so loud and hard. I then had a mini dellima going on was my heart beating because I was mad and wanted to put that sister in her place or was I really feeling the spirit. I began to pray as I wrestled with my apparently "out of control" children to dechiper really what I was feeling as soon as I finished praying a childhood memory flooded back into my mind in full force and color and I knew that I HAD to share it.
I walked up to the super packed chapel with my crazy loud baby boy in my arms and shared the following story: (side note I promise I was lead by the spirit and what I said I'm not quite sure but I can tell you the memory but it may not hit you with the spirit that I felt while sharing that and for that I apologize)

In 1984 the Manti Temple was refurbished and updated to be a little more modern for the ease of accomadating the temple going people of the area. My parents had recently moved into the Manti temple district and decided to take their young family (My older brother was 7 I was 3 almost 4 my younger brother was 1 and half and my mom was pregnant with another baby) for the two hour trek to the temple. When we finally arrived to the temple I remember leaving my shoes at the front door. I was really apprehensive of leaving my beloved fancy church shoes at the door but was reassured by the fact that I knew Angels where at the temple and would protect my shoes. We walked through the entire temple I remember being confused at the baptismal font and why there were cows holding it up but we moved on. The next part I remember was walking up the spiral staircase to the sealing room and seeing my face in the mirror. As we began to go down the stairs I was terrified. My dad picked me up in his big Daddy arms and carried me down the steps and I knew I was safe. When we reached the bottom of the steps my dad gently placed me to the ground and knelt and looked at me he then said "Andrea, the next time you walk down these steps will be with the man you will have for all eternity."
We went on our merry way and I thought back on those moments from time to time and knew that I wanted to be married in the temple. It wasn't always easy to make the right choices but I knew that is where I wanted to be. Almost 18 years later I walked down those very same steps holding the hand of the man that I so deeply love. We had just been sealed and as we reached the bottom steps I couldn't help but think of my father and mother and the sacrafices they had made to make sure I knew how important temples are.

As I am now a parent of three young children sometimes it's really hard to get out and go to the temple. You have to find babysitters and often times it would be much easier to stay at home and know that someday when it gets easier we'll go to the temple and I remember the example of my parents and I know it's worth it now.

I finished my testimony and sat down but to you my readers I want to finish some thoughts. I am so grateful that my parents risked the chance of being scrutinized for having so many little kids and risking people judging there lack of parenting skills. As we took our own three little kids to the draper temple open house we worried if they would behave, if they too would disrupt the spirit there and worried that other might be upset as well. Jeremy woke up that morning with a serious sinus infection but still wanted to go to the temple with the kids so that they could have their chance to feel that spirit. To be completly honest our kids were by far less than perfect. Abby wanted to run all over and touch every single thing. Will fussed and cried and Lizzie had a hard time wanting me to hold her hand the entire time which was hard while I was trying to steer my sinus driven husband in the right direction while holding my squirmy two year old and comfort my one year old baby. But we went, a spirit was felt and now all I can do is continue to teach the importance of temples and show the blessing that my covenants are in my life.

When we make the effort the results may not always be perfect but the blessings will always be there. I am so grateful for the opportunities I have to teach my children and the reflections I have of my own childhood. I know that the gospel of Jesus Christ resides here on this earth today. I know that Joseph Smith truly saw God the Father and His Son Jesus Christ and truly restored the gospel in all of it's glory. I love my Savior and know that as I strive to live as he would I can be made perfect through the gift of the atonement.

For those of you who would like to go through the Draper Temple you still have time here's the link to get tickets. The tour ends March 14th.

9 comments:

Rosie said...

Hi Andrea, I am Melissa Elton's sister Rosie. I have to tell you - Hooray for you!!! I too had my heart pounding when i read the first of your testimony experiences. I am grateful that you had the spirit (and the guts) to get up and let everyone know that indeed it was Jesus himself that said "suffer the little ones to come unto me" and that is exactly what you did. way to go. I appreciate your experience.

BJ said...

My husband was not sure what to think of that experience on Sunday. I have noticed, especially through my parents, that as people get older, many forget what it is like to have young children. I have to learn to just smile at them and go on my way. It gets me much more worked up worrying about what people say and trying to please them.

Melissa said...

I am so happy to read this today. I was out in the foyer for most of the talks, and only heard a portion of what this dear sister was saying, and I thought to my self. 'at least she is here. and wants to share her testimony, who am I to get angry with her' (though i really wanted to.) so, thank you for what you said. it brought tears to my eyes thinking of all the seemingly small moments when we were little, and the things our moms and dads would do to help us grasp what was important. it reminds me to be careful of what they see and hear that the littlest of things suddenly are of the most importance. I love the story of your dad carrying you down the stairs. - i bet he didnt even remember that!

Kaylene said...

thanks so much for sharing that! (((HUGS)))

Stacey Collom said...

I just want to say thank you Andrea...I couldn't have asked for a better sister in law! You have always been such a great example to me, and I tell Dustin this all the time, that I want to be a mom just like you. You do such a great job at what you do and you are raising your kids to be good examples as well. Thank you for your example and your testimony!

Camey said...

Well my mouth was actually dropped open the whole time. I should be less quick to judge, but I was pretty shocked. However, her daughter was in YW and I was teaching honoring your parents. So really no matter we have to just let it go. However, I was thinking of how I want a big family and my crazy experience with Spencer at the temple and that no matter what I am glad I took him so that I can tell him that I did. So that he knows the temple is important to us. Anyhow thanks for your story.

Daughter of God said...

Andrea,
I have a random question...how do you get your temple pic to link to the church web site? I would love to be able to put that on one of my blogs. thanks!

DeAnn said...

I wanted to tell you Thank-You so much for your testimony!! I enjoyed it very much! Me and my husband were also married in the exact room in the Manti Temple! I Love it there, I wish we could go more often!!

Holly said...

That was a beautiful story. Thanks for sharing it. I also have less than perfect children and we are also struggling with teaching them how to feel the spirit. You handled the situation with grace. What a great example.